Paul,
Tab? Are we referring to the �modified� a.k.a. molested washer in "25R"? Since that needs to go into your discard pile, I�d recommend not using it again.
An unmolested outer (large) washer is as it appears on the �25L� image. That other little tab, on both washers (inner/outer) that appears on the inner surface, goes into the groove or channel on the spindle to keep the washers from spinning � tab faces out so as not to ground out or press against inner washer-and preventing proper tightness on the nut. Therefore, when you bend over a section of the outer edge of the thinner (outer) washer down over the outer nut, you lock it in place since the washer can�t spin.
A flat washer is hard to bend outwards with the available gap inside the hub. A technique I like to use is to install and set the inner nut. Install the outer washer and nut. Scribe (or mark with permanent marker) the outer washer where I want to bend it. Remove outer nut and washer. Using pliers or a vise, start a slight bend just above the scribe so that when reinstalled, grabbing that portion with a screwdriver edge is easier to complete the bend down onto the outer nut. Only one bend is required to lock the nut.
Is that more confusing?